What seems fair to you may not seem fair to your spouse, to your children, or to a Judge or jury that doesn’t know you. No one is likely to be objectively right or wrong about what is or is not “fair.”
Try to focus on controlling only those things you can control, and changing only those things you can -- and want or need to -- change.
You will probably be inundated with supportive advice from family and friends, but you must remember: What worked for them may or may not work for you. Take their well-meaning advice as words of comfort and support from someone who cares about you – not as good legal advice!
Harboring resentments is like taking poison while hoping that it will cause someone else to die.
Emotions are your body’s way of releasing pent-up energy. The more you push emotions away, the more powerful and overwhelming they become.
When things are the way you want them, be grateful, because they will eventually change. When things are not the way you want them, be grateful that they will also eventually change.
Allow others to do for you what you would do for them, if they needed it.
The right thing to do is the right thing to do, regardless of how anyone else is acting. Do it, and you’ll always be able to hold your head up high.
Some love is unconditional, so revel in it whenever you can.
The end of this chapter of your life may well be painful for you, but the possibilities for your new life are endless. You can and will grieve your loss, but once you realize that you can create your own new reality, a whole new world will open up for you.